Commitment is the ultimate assertion of human freedom. It releases

all the energy you possess and enables you to take quantum leaps

in creativity. When you set a one-pointed intention and absolutely

refuse to allow obstacles to dissipate the focused quality of your

attention, you engage the infinite organizing power of the universe.

(Chopra)

You have an ability to co-create. But it takes commitment. You must be willing to commit yourself, even if it means sacrificing temporary satisfactions. A commitment brings up everything, which includes your strengths, talents, weaknesses, and fears.

Deepak Chopra tells us that there are a few common decisions that keep us from totally committing in life. One of the common reasons is that we don’t intend to look bad in front of others. It boils down to placing self-image over integrity. If you are passionate about what you intend to achieve, you will not care about how others will see you. Olympic runners cross the finish line drenched in their own sweat. Their faces exhibiting their exhaustion. Don’t worry about how others will see you.

Chopra said another reason why people do not commit is because they do not intend to fail. Before they even fail, they will stop themselves. People have a conditioned belief that failure equates to being worthless. They would not even try so that there won’t be any risk of failing.

In the same way, we do not intend others to see us fail. Again, there is pride in this reason. Pride brings us down. We have the tendency to fear shame. We are afraid of other people’s opinions. But at the end of the day, we need to value what we will think of ourselves in the long run.

Chopra also mentioned how people fail to commit because they do not intend to experience any pain. There is a fear for psychological pain. Those who suffered in the past without being able to find healing may have a great aversion to any possibility of pain. They do not intend to be vulnerable. There is no way to be committed without being at risk of being vulnerable (Hanley, 1989). In fact, you are putting your identity at stake by openly declaring yourself through commitments. Commitment requires courage. You must be willing to be unsuccessful or plain wrong at times. Being committed means you  are open to challenges, accusations, and even ridicule.

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