Without transformation, without purpose, every successful relationship is on its way to becoming unsuccessful (Smothermon, 1982). It cannot be that we came to this experience merely for the purpose of making a living, doing housework, bookkeeping, or whatever our lot in life may be, all for the privilege, at last, of laying ourselves down to die. Doing only those things means that we have not yet found our destiny (Goldsmith, 1962).

Just as our individual self has a purpose; our purpose would most likely include others – in a relationship level. According to Goldsmith, if there is a purpose that God has set us up to, it is to be led back to the kingdom of our own consciousness in which God is manifested as divine wisdom, as divine love, as life, truth, permanence, immortality, and eternality (Goldsmith, 1962). We find and fulfill our purpose as we begin to be with each other in a relationship. In continuation, no one came here by accident; no one came merely through physical creation. All of us are part of a universal plan, and that plan is the fulfilment of God. Truth is fulfilling itself in some way through you, although that fulfilment may not be apparent at the moment (Goldsmith, 1962).

Our knowledge of our individual purpose should really manifest into the relationship. For then, it may be able to extend as far as the other levels of self.

Leadership is about creating vision and possibility in relationships with other human beings (Selman, 2007, p.50). Certainly, God had not intended man to be alone. As it is written, God has said, it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him (Genesis 2:18). In light of this truth, we are not to travel life alone. For a man, God has given the gift of a woman. And, they are to be together in reaching the vision and purpose God has for them.

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